Article should be
credited to Zoe Woodman, Dorking NCT Branch, this article was originally
featured in Wimbledon & Wandsworth Branch newsletter, Spring Edition 2010.
with recent addition of links.
A
Pumping Mummy – My experience
Zoƫ
Woodman
Mai was born on 20th Dec 2008 at 42wks. It
wasn’t a straightforward birth and as a result I was unable to hold her for a
few hours. Right from the start we
struggled with breastfeeding. Various midwives tried to help, by forcing Mai
onto the breast but this left us both distressed. More than one midwife suggested nipple
shields, which we used with mixed success, but then another midwife disagreed.
This summed up our time in hospital - I was offered lots of mixed, sometimes
conflicting, advice, and no one spent more than five minutes trying to help us.
The midwives did not have enough time to spend with each mum, helping them to
successful breastfeed. It was not the
start I was hoping for.
One midwife mentioned expressing the
colostrum and I did this on the first day and we then fed Mai this via a
syringe, but no-one showed us how to use the pump or explained what to do.
After a day or so we decided to give her some formula due to her becoming
jaundiced, we knew from our NCT classes that her stomach would be so small that
she would only need a tiny amount so we gave her 10ml. She was immediately alert and bright eyed. Had we been helped to express, we would have been able to
give her breast milk which would have been even more effective at helping her
to eliminate the cause of the jaundice.
Once home we continued trying to breastfeed
with mixed success - Mai was on and off the breast, not always sucking for
long. Mai was then weighed and had
dropped to 7lb from her birth weight of 8lb 3oz. We even had to go out and buy tiny baby size
clothes as the clothes which had fitted her in hospital were now too big for
her. It was crushing.
The midwife advised topping up with formula
to make sure Mai did not lose any more weight, as well as persevering with
breastfeeding but it became too stressful for us and on the 27th
December I bought a breast pump and started pumping that day. I got 40ml the
first time and it was fascinating to watch the milk squirting out and
collecting it in the bottle.
I’m not sure at what point, but I decided to
stop breastfeeding and just pump or “exclusively pump” (EP’ing) as it’s known,
although I didn’t know that at the time.
Our health visitor kept telling me that I needed to get her back onto
the breast, but after a week of EPing my mind was made up. This is what we were
going to do. I found once I had made my decision the pressure from others to
breastfeed ceased, however no information or advice about pumping was
forthcoming. Logic told me this was possible
as it is about supply and demand, the pump was creating the demand instead of a
baby but for how long this would work I had no idea.
I was pumping six to seven times a day with
lots of help from my husband, we were lucky as he had four weeks off which
helped us adjust to pumping and fitting it into a routine. By the time he went
back to work it was just part of what we did. Paul fed Mai in the morning,
evening and night while I pumped, then during the day I managed to feed Mai
with a bottle of expressed breast milk and pump at the same time. In addition we knew exactly how much milk Mai
was feeding and how much I was producing. After her initial weight loss we
found this important.
We had to top up with formula once a day for
the first few months, the need to top-up is high for mothers who EP. I know now it was because I wasn’t pumping
enough, babies feed on average two hourly for the first few weeks whereas I was
only pumping three hourly and not at night. It is essential to pump during the
night when pro-lactin, the hormone which is linked to milk supply, is highest;
hence why babies feed at night; Mother Nature is a wonderful thing!
After a month or so I started looking into
the subject of expressing and I bought a great book called “Exclusively
expressing to feed your baby” by Stephanie Casemore, an American mum, who wrote
the book from her experiences. I felt a
huge relief and recognition and hope - there was a name for what we were doing
and others were doing it too, had done it, and for over a year!
The majority of the information I found was
on expressing in conjunction with rather than instead of breastfeeding, and
what little I could find on this topic was mostly from American sites where
pumping is extremely common due to maternity leave being only six weeks - so if
mums want to continue breastfeeding they have to pump. What struck me most about my experience in
this area is the lack of awareness, advice and support of pumping.
Being at home a lot with a new baby the
internet was my saviour! I was an avid
user of the website www.babycentre.co.uk and part of the December 2008 birth
club, and it dawned on me that there must be others in similar situations so I
set up a group - “Pumping Mummies”. There are now over 2700 pumping mummies
since starting in February 2009 and is a place to find advice and support for
those who pump whether it’s exclusively or in conjunction with breastfeeding or
mixed feeding.
Some women pump because their babies have to
be initially tube fed. If babies are in SCBU or premature often mums are encouraged
to express but this is the only time that pumping is encouraged within the NHS.
Most women who EP fall into it when
breastfeeding doesn’t work out but for others it can be an active decision as
they don’t want to breastfeed but want to give their babies breast milk. EPing
makes that possible.
I strongly believe health professionals
should talk to mums-to-be and new mums about expressing. There should be a tiered level of advice,
concentrating on encouraging and supporting breastfeeding whilst mentioning expressing
as a feeding option. Also where mums are
not keen to breastfeed or are having difficulties breastfeeding expressing
should be discussed as an option before anything else as it is often left too
late when women feel they have no other option than to give up
breastfeeding. If mentioned at the right
time many more babies would probably get breast milk for longer. All NHS hospitals should be following the NICE guidelines,
which clearly state that all mothers should be taught how to hand-express their
milk. If there are problems with the baby, mum should be supported to express
by hand or pump and given information for storage and freezing of expressed
milk. The NICE guidelines also state that formula milk should only be given if
there is a sound medical reason for doing so. The fact that many midwives may
not mention expressing to a struggling mum is probably because they haven’t
read the guidelines! Breast milk regardless of how its fed is beneficial for
babies and more mums may express if they realised it was a viable long
term option.
My husband and our families have supported
what we are doing and never suggested giving formula instead. I think it’s because everyone understands
that breast is best but have never heard of EPing as an option, so it’s assumed
that if you are not breastfeeding then you must be giving formula. EPing is the
next best thing if breastfeeding doesn’t work out or a mum doesn’t want to
breastfeed for whatever reason.
At around a year or so I noticed a gap in Mai’s
top teeth and did a bit of online research and discovered she has a lip tie,
this can be an indicator of tongue tie, a condition which affects the ability
to latch onto the breast and also gives a high palate shape due to its
formation in the womb. We took her to a private paediatric surgeon at around
18months and he confirmed she has a tongue tie and a lip tie. We decided on his
advice that we would take no action as she was able to speak well and also able
to stick her tongue out and he felt the risks of a general anaesthetic were
greater than the benefits as it wasn’t any longer causing any issues and the
likelihood that it would in the future was slim.
Tongue tie is the biggest reason for people
finding themselves Eping long term, we try on the board to point people to get
proper qualified breastfeeding support (not a HV or MW) or even an IBCLC, its
too late for us but if it is caught soon enough it can mean saving a
breastfeeding relationship and that’s why the board works so well, if we can
help make others journey that bit easier through us having gone through it then
its worth while.
For more information on pumping:
http://community.babycentre.co.uk/groups/a1669245/pumping_mummies
Born too soon group on Baby centre post
specific to premature babies:
http://community.babycentre.co.uk/post/a9185145/pumping_advice_links?cpg=1&csi=2048287558&pd=-1
http://community.babycentre.co.uk/post/a13552645/tongue_tie_resources_for_parents
http://milkmatters.org.uk/2011/04/15/hidden-cause-of-feeding-problems-however-you-feed-your-baby/
http://blog.nurturedchild.ca/index.php/2010/12/10/baby-led-bottle-feeding/
http://www.lcgb.org/consultants_local.html
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Very interesting post, thanks for sharing! I pumped a bit for my son, but I couldn't seem to get much out with a pump. I was told by LLL leaders that sometimes mums can't express that much, and that it wasn't an indication of how much I was producing for baby who was better at getting it out than a pump. Our problem wasn't latching on, rather his tongue-tie and lip-tie, which weren't properly diagnosed until 10 weeks, by which point he was already getting top-ups from formula. But I persevered and he still happily breastfeeds at 16 months, after I dropped the formula when he was properly on solids.
ReplyDeleteGreat post. There definitely needs to be more awareness of pumping. Thankfully I had a great lactation consultant who encouraged me to do it. She tried to convince me to buy a double electric or rent a hospital grade pump but I just couldn't afford it so instead she gave me resources to help me work out how to make the most of my single electric. We also had a tongue-tie situation but thankfully we got it cut when my daughter was 8 weeks old. She still has a lip tie but we've decided not to do anything about it. We're still breastfeeding at 12 months. Thanks so much for sharing your personal story, all this information and these resources.
ReplyDeleteMy babywearing top tip is to keep practising until wrapping is second nature.
Thanks for the great post realy enjoyed reading it. I had the complete opposite with my daughter she was great at breast feeding but when i expressed and tried to allow hubby to feed her she just would not take it full stop so we had to exclusively breastfeed. I think you have to always do what ever suits you and your little one the best. I still expressed and used to use the milk for weaning etc once she started at 6months. Cant wait to find out what the future holds when bump is born as nothing ever goes to the plan you have in your head before they arrive.Im so greatful for everyone sharing their experiences!
ReplyDeleteI think my top tip for baby wearing is to try to find a position that is comfortable for you both as there are lots of different ways especialy the older baby gets : )
Really interesting read, I pump occasionally and have great admiration for anyone who can do so completely.
ReplyDeleteMums to be and mums who are having difficulties should receive more support and information to facilitate pumping where appropriate rather than an assumption that if you're not breastfeeding formula is your only option.
OMG, I did the same thing. I thought I was on my own but it is so reassuring to know that other people often do this as I had many surprised looks and comments from people. My daughter wouldn't latch on but I was determined to breastfeed, so expressed for six months. She had no formula in this time and I am so proud of myself. It was hard work- having to get up in the middle of the night to express, but it was worth it!
ReplyDeleteMy favourite baby wearing tip is to get a sling where you can actually see your baby feeding. I purchased a breastfeeding shawl for my son (who did latch on!) but hated it as I couldn't see him feeding.
Love this post. A good friend of mine pumped exclusively for seven months. I think she's amazing and I'd like to think I'd do the same if I were in her position.
ReplyDeleteOh and my babywearing tip? Practice makes perfect, it feels fantastic when you get it right (and thoroughly frustrating and uncomfortable when you don't!) x
ReplyDeleteMy son had a tongue tie that was snapped at 9 days. The painful latch continued until 6 weeks when i sought help from the keighley breastfeeding cafe who helped improve my latch. the tongue tie wasn't diagnosed un hospital even though i stayed an extra night as i was struggling with feeding. in the end a volunteer from ULL came round and it was her who put me in touch with the breastfeeding support nurse at the hospital. the midwife didn't once suggest i speak to her. now at 16 months we are still feeding and loving it. i relied on nt pump so much to keep my supply and my little man fed constantly both day and night for months but so worth it!
ReplyDeletePractice, practice and practice! Join a local sling group if you can, helps to be with others and see how they do it.
ReplyDeleteI would love a Moby wrap for my baby boy due in 3 weeks, they look so comfortable and I can't wait to have him that close and be able to look at his tiny face
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